Love to Lead – Lead from Love

Are you leading?  Are you being led?  How will you know?

The short answer is found in whether anyone is following you, or if you are following someone else.  When we think about children, it is no secret that kids desire discipline and leadership.  We often forget about this as adults.  Look at the need to for youth to create street gangs.  Why does this happen?  It happens from an absence of leadership and love.  So what’s more important?

Can you lead those you don’t love?  Is love a byproduct of leadership, or is leadership a byproduct of love?  This question matters and needs to be understood by any who have been called to lead.

Think about your children or about life as a child.  We try to anticipate the dangers and keep out children from them.  We try to demonstrate the proper way to climb stairs, eat food, or walk around a swimming pool.  This desire to lead comes from the love we have for our children.  If we didn’t love them, we wouldn’t feel compelled to keep them from falling down the stairs, choking on food, or falling into a swimming pool.

These exact same principles can and should be applied to the workforce.  Do you love you team members?  Does your leader love you?  If not, it is quite apparent, and you can’t fake it.  I am reminded of the famous quote that “People don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care.”  Do you love your team?

Are you in danger of failing, because you have not loved your team?

3 Suggestions to Reset Your Relationships

  1. Find someone on your team doing the right things and praise them.
  2. Hand-write a thank you note to someone on your team praising them for what they did.
  3. Recognize a team member publicly for their recent efforts or success.

I am reminded of a passage from 1 John 4:19 “We love because He first loved us.”  Are we expecting people to love us, without us loving them first?  Are we expecting others to follow us, without us loving them first?

If you want to be a better leader…Love your team first!

FEEDBACK:  Comment Below – What have leaders done to show their love? Any suggestions about loving your team?


  1. Dan Forbes says:

    Too often, Dave, in business people seem fearful of using the word Love. Big mistake. Love, Caring, Compassion are all words that Leaders should be comfortable embracing in describing their leadership. Thanks for using the word in such a wise way.

  2. Thanks Dan! Definitely a word which leaders should not shy away from. It does not indicate weakness, rather strength and maturity.

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